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The idea is so simple but beautifully affective.
Since I am now taking care of my elderly Mother who is with Hospice and he is always after her pain medicine, I finally kicked him out to save my sanity and my Mother from a sooner death. It is harder to watch a gifted, beautiful person (into bodybuilding and proper diet) kill themselves. Anyway, I read nightly on recovery and your article just reinforced that I have to detach from him so that I can be sane and care for my Mother and not have a nervous breakdown caring for him. He has no respect for her, me or himself.
Hell cannot be much worse than what he has put me through these last 10 years. Thanks for your website, it is wonderful.
Some years ago I tried it, which lead to me getting addicted to seeing the number on the scales getting smaller by each day. I got anorexic, I could go for days without eating, and got high on the feeling it caused. However, this didn't last forever, and the 5 stones I lost in 5 months came back to me in 4. And I kept gaining weight. I am not hopelessly fat, overweight though, but the thoughts of how I might end up are haunting me. I want so bad to get rid of this addiction and be like everyone else, but it's hard. So hard.
I know this is an emotional problem and this is where your site gave me a lot to think about. The section about living drug free was fantastic! I often feel scared of living, hate myself, and don't want to be around people. I feel like I'm not worthy of love, I feel disgusting and sinful. I feel like everyone is aware of my addiction, I never go near food in anyone elses presence, always eat alone. Would never admit the amounts I eat and keep a secret stash. And I'm so young. I'm supposed to be enjoying life. Be out there and have fun. And I can't.
Anyways, I just wanted to thank you big time for your great site and let you know that you probably help more people than you're aware of. I just felt I had to let you know how much I appreciated your work.
THANK YOU! You guys are great!
My spouse of nearly 40 years promised to stop drinking, and I trusted him. Now it seems he's been secretly drinking all along. I felt such anger and hurt. Your site put things in perspective for me and has given me a new strategy to try and sort us both out.
I'm going to start today..10 minutes at a time. I really believe this website helped re-inforce what I need to do, for myself and for my family - thank you.
Hopefully she will. It was so reassuring after reading your web site that we have gone down the right road, as her parents. We have always supported her (emotionally) - and when things get really bad she did and still does come home - going out at all times in the middle of the night to pick her up from wherever. We've bought her food when she was hungry, but on the whole have left her to "get on with her own life". At times when she'd been admitted to hospital after being picked up by the police, or arrested for being drunk etc. we have wondered if we were doing it right. But we had to get on with our own lives - not just for ourselves but for our son also. She always knew we were here if she wanted it.
Now after talking to her yesterday - she has said things getting worse and she wants to get help. Hopefully she will get the help - we thought about trying to get her to seek help a little nearer home - that way she won't be going back to the same environment as she is in now after treatment. We'll see - as your website so often says, it's her problem - it must be her decision.
Thank you so much for giving me such a morale boost! I really needed it!!
4 days ago he tried to end it or cry for help by slitting his wrists badly upstairs in his bedroom which we have allowed him to have since his car crash and split from partner. He was admitted to a psychiatric unit. Tablets again for 4 days...then....they let him out for a while. ONE WEEK...are they mad? He was discharged ...he obviously did not want help they said. How sad that nobody can see it is not that easy. He banged at our door yet again but this time we called the police. This time they have taken him from our house. We cannot do it any more. He is on his own.
I would like to thank you for your web site.....it helped to explain and stopped me going mad with guilt that I had to do this. THANKYOU - please pray that my son sees what he is doing to himself.
My boyfriend is an alcoholic - although he isn't happy about admitting it - and throughout the five years that I have been with him the trauma his drinking has brought has increased so much. Last week I was on the brink of despair when I found your web site, I read through the section for families and friends of drug/alcohol abusers and I found it extremely encouraging to read about ways in which I can help my boyfriend.
Showing some tough love is certainly going to be tough to do, I love my boyfriend very very much but at the same time hate him for how much his addiction has hurt me and himself over the years. He is a fantastic person when he's sober and until coming across your site I have always been searching for answers on how I can change him and stop his addiction - but thanks to your site I have come to realise something which I have probably dreaded - and that is that he has to want to change himself.
I have printed off hundreds of pages from your site and hope to make good use of them. I wish I could send you a donation to help keep your site running - at the moment money is almost non-existent but I would really like to donate something in the future so that many more people can benefit, as I have, from the excellent information, advice and support that your site offers.
Thank you so much for an easy to read, no nonsense list of information, which has made me determined to look after myself, with no guilt for the first time in years, a brillant site, thanks!
I visited your website to get help because my boyfriend is a heroin addict.
I found your website really, really helpful, brilliantly well written.
All of what I read within your programme has helped me and given me some direction. Thank you so much, I feel I have at last been given a chance not only to look at why my son is doing this, but look at my self.
Congratulations. As the sister of a long-term drug abuser (although no-one has addressed it yet!), I will attempt to get my parents to visit so that they may be better informed as to my brother's condition. Whilst they cannot change him, there are many things that they can do.
I love the tough love approach. Acknowledge the problem, let them know that you care and will help them through thick and thin WHEN THEY'RE READY.
the best site for drug abusers! like me
keep it up!!
your site made me think alot