Hi there!
I am a 14 year old girl with a father who is involved with drugs and alcohol abuse. It really hurts me to see what he is doing to himself! I really want to help him.
Your web site has givin me a lot of information that I was able to understand! Thank you very much for letting me help him and myself! Your site is the BEST!!!
A simply fantastic site !
The idea is so simple but beautifully affective.
I am the Mother of a drug addict of about 10 years, he is now 29. I have tried to help him through various rehabs, short stays in jail (2-4 months) and helped him financially so many times with fines and tickets, along with clothes, food and hotels when I could not take him any longer. Many of his friends have died or are now in jail and he says that he wants another life, yet he calls his friends who are users and will not go to AA.
Since I am now taking care of my elderly Mother who is with Hospice and he is always after her pain medicine, I finally kicked him out to save my sanity and my Mother from a sooner death. It is harder to watch a gifted, beautiful person (into bodybuilding and proper diet) kill themselves. Anyway, I read nightly on recovery and your article just reinforced that I have to detach from him so that I can be sane and care for my Mother and not have a nervous breakdown caring for him. He has no respect for her, me or himself.
Hell cannot be much worse than what he has put me through these last 10 years. Thanks for your website, it is wonderful.
I am not dependant on conventional drugs or alcohol. I do however how a problem with addiction. This might sound funny but food is my drug. I have been fighting this problem for god knows how long and I've recently realised that all the symptoms I experience are the same as for drug addicts or alcoholics. I have started searching the internet for information on addiction, and I think I have the power, with the help of your very comforting and reassuring site, to once again start fighting my cravings, which often go on for days and keep me awake at nights. And believe me, this is no joke, it is a real problem, I feel as useless and vulnerable as any heroin addict and I've had long periods of depression and suicidal thoughts caused by this. And I can't go completely cold turkey, which makes it even more difficult, I mean you have to eat to live.
Some years ago I tried it, which lead to me getting addicted to seeing the number on the scales getting smaller by each day. I got anorexic, I could go for days without eating, and got high on the feeling it caused. However, this didn't last forever, and the 5 stones I lost in 5 months came back to me in 4. And I kept gaining weight. I am not hopelessly fat, overweight though, but the thoughts of how I might end up are haunting me. I want so bad to get rid of this addiction and be like everyone else, but it's hard. So hard.
I know this is an emotional problem and this is where your site gave me a lot to think about. The section about living drug free was fantastic! I often feel scared of living, hate myself, and don't want to be around people. I feel like I'm not worthy of love, I feel disgusting and sinful. I feel like everyone is aware of my addiction, I never go near food in anyone elses presence, always eat alone. Would never admit the amounts I eat and keep a secret stash. And I'm so young. I'm supposed to be enjoying life. Be out there and have fun. And I can't.
Anyways, I just wanted to thank you big time for your great site and let you know that you probably help more people than you're aware of. I just felt I had to let you know how much I appreciated your work.
THANK YOU! You guys are great!
Thank you for your honest, informative and comforting site.
My spouse of nearly 40 years promised to stop drinking, and I trusted him. Now it seems he's been secretly drinking all along. I felt such anger and hurt. Your site put things in perspective for me and has given me a new strategy to try and sort us both out.
I am an alcoholic who is home with the kids on school vacation this week (lucky them). I have been struggling with this problem for many years. I found your website to be very insightful. I need to remind myself of the "rights" I have as a human being. I feel so much better when I do not drink.
I'm going to start today..10 minutes at a time. I really believe this website helped re-inforce what I need to do, for myself and for my family - thank you.
I am a recovering alcolic I have just found your web site. I wish it had been available 15 years ago, I am sure it would have helped me when I needed it most but I found my way in the end.
I am sure that this site will help people who seek help, keep up the good work I am sending a small donation to this end
I work in a GP surgery and was asked to look for information on addiction therapy centres. I think your site is excellent.
Hi
I'm recovering addict running three years clean time.
I'm following the 12 steps of NA.
I liked what I read.
I'm also working as a counselor in a rehab.
Your website is lot informative. Especially people of Nepal who rarely get opportunity about these things.
Keep up the good work.
(from Nepal)
Your site looks great. I'm a wrinkly myself, having got past an alcohol habit some years ago, but I would have liked to see this when I was first looking for help.
eccalant web site and motivating today the 30/05/01 is the day i hopefuly rid
myself of this lonley world of alcohol abuse i will give it my best shot
THANKS
A nice, friendly approach with some good sound advice - well done!
My husband and I have been to hell and back these past two years - our eldest daughter (now coming up to 18) ran away from home and has subsequently got mixed up with drugs and alchol abuse. She has now finally admitted she has a problem (although not an adict - she just needs to take things to make her feel better!) and has now said she wants to get some help.
Hopefully she will. It was so reassuring after reading your web site that we have gone down the right road, as her parents. We have always supported her (emotionally) - and when things get really bad she did and still does come home - going out at all times in the middle of the night to pick her up from wherever. We've bought her food when she was hungry, but on the whole have left her to "get on with her own life". At times when she'd been admitted to hospital after being picked up by the police, or arrested for being drunk etc. we have wondered if we were doing it right. But we had to get on with our own lives - not just for ourselves but for our son also. She always knew we were here if she wanted it.
Now after talking to her yesterday - she has said things getting worse and she wants to get help. Hopefully she will get the help - we thought about trying to get her to seek help a little nearer home - that way she won't be going back to the same environment as she is in now after treatment. We'll see - as your website so often says, it's her problem - it must be her
decision.
Thank you so much for giving me such a morale boost! I really needed it!!
Thank you for the great insight on your web site. I've been struggling for quite awhile on how to handle my husband's drug abuse problem. Your sight was easy to find answers. As a web designer myself, I also want to say that the navigation and look of the sight was very comfortable for even the most novice user. Keep up the great work.
I am currently researching an essay entitled "Counselling addicts." I would just like to say that I have found the site brilliant. I am an Assistant Pastor and will also find this site very useful when dealing with young people involved in drink and drugs.
My son of 30 is an alcoholic. He crashed his car two years ago / drunk / after rowing with his partner, and life has slid rapidly downhill for him and us...his family ever since. He has had so many chances but fails EVERY time. After listening to friendly advice and reading your web page I realise he has had too much support....he needs to do it himself. We have been trying the tough love approach for a couple of weeks now. He drinks a bottle of vodka at a go..large one. and then toddles home to sleep and destroy the bed etc. and us. He has had all the fits...nearly bit his tongue off and ended up in intensive care for a week. Everything to have with this addiction...he has had - and so have we.
4 days ago he tried to end it or cry for help by slitting his wrists badly upstairs in his bedroom which we have allowed him to have since his car crash and split from partner. He was admitted to a psychiatric unit. Tablets again for 4 days...then....they let him out for a while. ONE WEEK...are they mad? He was discharged ...he obviously did not want help they said. How sad that nobody can see it is not that easy. He banged at our door yet again but this time we called the police. This time they have taken him from our house. We cannot do it any more. He is on his own.
I would like to thank you for your web site.....it helped to explain and stopped me going mad with guilt that I had to do this. THANKYOU - please pray that my son sees what he is doing to himself.
I just wanted to say thank you for providing such an informative, inspiring and encouraging web site that tackles many issues facing drug/alcohol abusers and their families.
My boyfriend is an alcoholic - although he isn't happy about admitting it - and throughout the five years that I have been with him the trauma his drinking has brought has increased so much. Last week I was on the brink of despair when I found your web site, I read through the section for families and friends of drug/alcohol abusers and I found it extremely encouraging to read about ways in which I can help my boyfriend.
Showing some tough love is certainly going to be tough to do, I love my boyfriend very very much but at the same time hate him for how much his addiction has hurt me and himself over the years. He is a fantastic person when he's sober and until coming across your site I have always been searching for answers on how I can change him and stop his addiction - but thanks to your site I have come to realise something which I have probably dreaded - and that is that he has to want to change himself.
I have printed off hundreds of pages from your site and hope to make good use of them. I wish I could send you a donation to help keep your site running - at the moment money is almost non-existent but I would really like to donate something in the future so that many more people can benefit, as I have, from the excellent information, advice and support that your site offers.
All I can say is thank you.
HI
Ive been living with a heroin/cocaine/addict for seven years. I have paid for his addiction financially and emotionally for years. Just before I looked at your site, I had started to withdraw from it all - and try to enjoy my life. I had enormous guilt feelings about this, UNTIL I read your 'help for you' pages.
Thank you so much for an easy to read, no nonsense list of information, which has made me determined to look after myself, with no guilt for the first time in years, a brillant site, thanks!
Hi there,
I visited your website to get help because my boyfriend is a heroin addict.
I found your website really, really helpful, brilliantly well written.
Thank you very much indeed. That is a superb website - very impressive, accessible and helpful.
I woke up at 4.30 in the morning with feelings of panic about my 23yr old son whom is taking drugs/amphetamines injecting etc.
All of what I read within your programme has helped me and given me some direction.
Thank you so much, I feel I have at last been given a chance not only to look at why my son is doing this, but look at my self.
Thank you.
HELLO
I'm a teenager who has tried alcohol and tabacco. I choose to lead a drug free life after seeing others getting hurt and in trouble. Also I want to look back in the past and be able to say "I had a great and heathly life on my own, I didn't need drugs to enjoy living!"
Thank You - Your web site is very helpful!
Fab, fab, fab! What an excellent site. Very informative, attractive and easy to read. Nice short sections containing lots of useful stuff.
Congratulations. As the sister of a long-term drug abuser (although no-one has addressed it yet!), I will attempt to get my parents to visit so that they may be better informed as to my brother's condition. Whilst they cannot change him, there are many things that they can do.
I love the tough love approach. Acknowledge the problem, let them know that you care and will help them through thick and thin WHEN THEY'RE READY.
i love this site!!!!!!!!!!!
its helps!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
the best site for drug abusers! like me
keep it up!!
your site made me think alot
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You have an awsome website!!!!
I work with teens that are at-risk and I was able to copy your info so that it can help them. It is written so just about anyone can understand. Keep up the good work. Thanks to the volunteers who help with the website.
I am so glad i found this website, it is really neat and interesting not boring at all and it helped me learn a lot.
thanks
I am the mother of a 15 year old daughter in a long-term drug treatment program. I came across your web site and wanted to tell you I think it is absolutely wonderful. I hope that you touch many lives with it. You did a great job!
God Bless,
I was just looking up information on drugs for my sister-in-law's nursing course, and found your site to be one of the most informative sites that I have come across. I particularly liked the approach that you have taken and find it very refreshing indeed.
Excellent
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