OK
let's just look back at what we've been saying.
- You CANNOT CONTROL this child's behaviour - no matter how hard you try.
So you stop trying to do this
Instead, you start to change your own behaviour. You DETACH.
- If you ENABLE your child's behaviour - s/he will have no reason to change.
So you stop doing this
You stop making excuses for them. You stop protecting them from the consequences of their actions.
- You set firm BOUNDARIES. These represent what is acceptable to you
Make it clear to your child that breaking these boundaries will have CONSEQUENCES.
And you stick to these - absolutely. You will not give in to excuses or manipulation.
Above all
find some help and support.
That's very important. You can learn so much from the experience of other parents - and draw strength and hope from their support. Click here to see some information.
Our best wishes go with you
- go for it!